I was diagnosed with complex post traumatic stress disorder in 2020, after a 2019 incident at work: a man I worked with who was senior to me touched my body without permission.
Great article. So much to think about but I especially love how the Win List can ground us back to what’s true and help redirect our focus and energy. I really see the value in this. Thank you!
“I do know the more I focused on revenge, the harder it was to create a life I liked.” This just made me stop and ponder. For those of us who have been “much too kind” when the red flags were there, or took on the extra when others didn’t, it makes me think about those feelings: boundaries aren’t revenge, they’re steps towards self-kindness. Releasing draining relationships isn’t being cruel, it’s creating space for our growth and more. And when we wish to create a life we like, the options are in front of us, as we do our own growing and healing, in the ways that become clear. Still thinking on this. :)
although it can also be a survival strategy. that's the part the screws with my head sometimes - that the things that once saved us eventually become the things that can destroy us.
Great article. So much to think about but I especially love how the Win List can ground us back to what’s true and help redirect our focus and energy. I really see the value in this. Thank you!
such a good way of explaining the win list: grounding us back to what's true. Ta!
“I do know the more I focused on revenge, the harder it was to create a life I liked.” This just made me stop and ponder. For those of us who have been “much too kind” when the red flags were there, or took on the extra when others didn’t, it makes me think about those feelings: boundaries aren’t revenge, they’re steps towards self-kindness. Releasing draining relationships isn’t being cruel, it’s creating space for our growth and more. And when we wish to create a life we like, the options are in front of us, as we do our own growing and healing, in the ways that become clear. Still thinking on this. :)
much too kind is an understatement ;)
although it can also be a survival strategy. that's the part the screws with my head sometimes - that the things that once saved us eventually become the things that can destroy us.
Yes! And that uncovering and healing work, as our awareness increases and we can sit with it, is uncomfortable but necessary.