Bad workplaces can linger long after we've left.
Today Virginia and Trisha talk about toxic behaviours they carried with them after they had left unhealthy workplaces.
From people pleasing and performativity, to how needing external validation enforces the status quo, there are all sorts of cultural norms that do not serve us well regardless of whether we are entrepreneurs or employees.
Knowing what you can control helps you create good boundaries - if the job you have is the only option and it is unhealthy, then the goal is to set focus on maintaining your boundaries and creating an exit strategy. Sometimes a job is just a job.
Three takeaways from our combined ten years experience helping others navigate changes in their lives:
Focus on your strengths and what you are doing well, rather than worrying about your weaknesses. Knowing what you have done well creates a sense of internal safety rather than relying on external validation.
Non-negotiable No’s and Enthusiastic Yeses. By knowing what is off-limits, what we will not do, decisions can make themselves. We will not question our integrity because we know where our no-go zones are.
This also creates more time to embrace enthusiastic yeses for the relationships and projects that make excited you.
Know your zone of control and focus your efforts there. By focusing your efforts on what you can control, your energy is directed at what needs to be done. This zone of control can and will expand as you develop a sense of safety and empowerment.
If you spend your energy focusing on what you cannot control but want to - your zone of interest - you will burnout and get nothing done.
